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In case you were wondering

The day didnt turn out to be a total waste.

ImageIt started out with a delayed school opening.  Which I realize isn’t such a bad way to do the morning.  Its relaxed, the kids are awake and functioning, very pleasant.  We all are  night people (except GM) and combining that with adolescence, we have a house full of owls. (except GM)  But I wouldnt want them to go to school longer cuz of all their activities.  Then of course there is all that practice test taking to fit in to the day here in Fairfield County.  Day just cant be shorter.

It was an exceptionally grey day today.  Until around 5:00.  Then the sun came out and it was beautiful.  My windows are filthy.

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And then there is Tevez.

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Happy Mom’s Day

It’s 10:53 and I am still in bed. Cal made me coffee, Owen delivered me the Sunday Times. I will be preparing a Sunday Brunch for everyone then I back off the clock for the rest of the day. I think I will plant my herb garden and read. It’s a beautiful day.

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Our Lady of MargaritaVILLE

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Not enough learning

I loathe the fact that our public school system puts so much emphasis on the standardized test.  I realize that almost every state mandates a series of achievement test administered periodically in a student’s primary and secondary academic career.  State and local school systems can glean all sorts of information from them.  I understand there is value in them.  I think its fine for kids to take them.

I don’t however think that the schools should teach to the test or that there be rigorous preparation for the test.  In most private schools, such as the one my kids went to in Argentina, there is annual standardized testing in 3-9 grades.  It happens once a year and perhaps an hour or two is spent familiarizing the kids with how questions might be presented to them along with some handy dandy tips on how to manage their time.  As a parent you receive notice saying these are the days the test will be administered,  try to have your kid well rested and fortified with a good breakfast.  I never heard anything more about it until I received my child’s test scores in a report card.

The results are pretty self-explanatory, but if you have any questions you schedule a conference with the school counselor.  I am mildly interested in my kid’s results.  The tests are consistant in telling me one of my kids is horrible at taking standardized tests, one is pretty talented at the test taking, I only wish it translated into good grades, one is a hard working test taker who excels and one is clearly confounded by maths.  Nothing I could not have told you before.  So I will assume that there was some value in it for the school.

Forward to my new school district.  Apparently one of the best, if not the best in the state I hear, them say.  One of the best according to a glossy local magazine that annually puts out a ranking of the state’s towns and schools.   To be the best at something you have to show an extraordinary result.  So this “best” is basically a function of quantifiable criteria.  While teacher student ratios and college graduation rates play a part of the equation its the numerous standardized tests that weigh the heaviest.

Why are these scores so important?   Teachers, administrators and parents all talk about these tests.  A LOT.   I get the teachers and administrator part.  This is feedback on how they are doing their jobs.  What they do with the information is another story.  Are they incented by these scores?  I have been told the higher the scores the more federal or state money they get.  Sorry, seems counter intuitive to me.  Shouldn’t the money go where the need is? Our high school’s astro-turfed football field/stadium has an entrance gate that looks like the train depot at Disney’s Main Street USA.  I would argue we don’t need the money, especially to pay for salaries for more high level administrators of these tests.

The part that pisses me off is that parents buy in to the importance of these tests.  In my community they have seemed to drunk the Kool-aid.  Why else would everyone so passively let the academic curriculum be high-jacked by these tests.  I was at my 4th grader’s Open House in September when twice in a 30 minute presentation we discussed these March mastery tests.  First, it was gleefully announced that they had found a extra hour in their weekly schedule to focus on some of the material and methodology of these tests .  We were also suppose to share the teacher’s enthusiasm for the fact a 5th grade teacher would beginning to work on some science curriculum with them this year so that they would be prepared for the science portion of the testing they would be taking NEXT year.  Most parents just shrug when I ask if they think this is a little bit insane.  In the minority of taking issue with it, one girlfriend said this was one of a few reasons they move their kids into private school for middle school and beyond.

Approximately a week later the frantic obsessive test taking reared its ugly head for a second time when my 6th grader came home with an untouched lunchbox.  When asked why he had not eaten it, he told me that because he was new to the school they wanted him to practice taking a test (ERB,something that’s isn’t mandated by the state but our school district swears by it).  These kids have been taking this test since first or second grade.  This practice session was being administered during his micro moment for lunch (20 minutes).  My sixth grader was new to school and is a good kid and did what the teacher asked, despite the fact that this is when he did what little socializing he could and he is a type one diabetic and needs to EAT!  I was livid.  It only emphasized to me how out of control their focus was.  Test results were paramount to a happy and healthy kid.  I gave myself several days to simmer down and they wrote a very pointed email to the dean of my childs section.

…I am writing on behalf of my husband and myself.  Recently an episode at school upset me so much that it took me a while to calm down enough to  write thoughtfully to you.  On Tuesday September 20, ____ was instructed by his English teacher (I think she is a substitute) to ” at lunch break come to my classroom to practice for a test which will be taken tomorrow”. I only discovered this because when he came home that day his lunch was untouched. I asked him about it, and he gave me the details.  This was disturbing on several levels.  One, ____is a diabetic and is administered insulin through a pump that is programed using assumptions that he is going to eat a certain amount of food at a certain time.  He should not miss a meal.  Second, lunch and any free time are key components of his transition from a small international school to _________.  And thirdly, as parents, we don’t care how ____ does on standardized  tests as long as he is learning and advancing intellectually and  emotionally.  We understand that the _____ school system puts a huge emphasis on these tests for reasons that have yet to be articulated clearly or justifiably to us.  We certainly do not accept that practice testing for tests whose value is completely unclear should interfere with our son’s health and social well-being.    In a nutshell, my son’s health and social well-being are paramount to  any importance the school district has put on the results of these tests.  I have explained to ___ the importance of him having a normal  lunch break and I hope you understand our priorities…. 

A few days later she got me on the phone and wanted to “clarify” a few things to me.  First thing she did was to punt my kid under the bus, stating he needed to be a better advocate for himself (he’s eleven, and isn’t that your job) and should have told the teacher he needed time to eat.  Then she tried to sell me on the importance of the tests.  At which point I mentioned again (see email)  I don’t really care how he does on the tests.  He is a good student and I don’t worry about him.  “Well if he is a good student he will want to do well on the tests because the kids talk about their scores, they are so proud of them, its really “neat””…….Well clearly she wasn’t getting the point that they weren’t important to me.  While I could see value to the school, I didn’t see why anyone should be proud the results of a test which doesn’t indicate hard work or achievement but preparation and an aptitude for multiple choice tests.  WHOPEE, you get a gold star!

Clearly she hadn’t run into a parent like me that felt so strongly as to tell her I could not have cared less about these results the school was working so hard to achieve.   I do blame parents who don’t see the wasted energy and resources in letting the schools teach to the test and put so much focus the preparation and results.  Its good to work for something but for a test that indicates what?

I live in a community where people are successful.  Parent I know all have  college plus educations and want to give their kids all sorts of opportunities that will begat other opportunities (a prestigious college is at the top of the list).  Kids in third grade know their test scores and friends tell me their kids test scores (high on my list of pet peeves).

Maybe I have four fucking geniuses in my house.  I don’t, but I wouldn’t tell you if I did.  My kids are not trophies that reside in a certain percentile or are numbers to improve on.  My kids may or may not be able to take a test.  What I want for my kids to is to learn how to think, critic, analyze, articulate and communicate ideas.   All my kids are talented in their own weird way and they will become “successful” adults (to me that means happy and taking care of themselves) despite of how well they did on these tests.  If you want to see how you are doing school system, go to it, quickly and with out screwing with my kids real education.

Reading Frenzy

Written 22 Februray 2012

I have read 6 books in five days.  Truth be told I had read ¾ of The Historian before I landed in Junin.

Here is what I read:

Gilead  By Marilynne Robinson.  She wrote also Housekeeping.  A mesmerizing writer of faith and theology all within a compelling story.  Doesn’t sound great I  know, but believe me she can spin a tale, and in this book she writes in the person of a 77 year old man.  That’s always so amazing to me when a writer writes in a voice so clearly and it cant possibly relate to their own self.

Parrot and Oliver in America   Excellent writing by Peter Carey (The Kelly Gang, Oscar and Lucinda).  A funny although at times desperate historical epic.  A bit like Tom Jones (Henry Fielding novel not pop singer) or even a funny Dickens story. Vivid characters and detailed and well drawn look at NYC in early 1800’s.

The year we left home  by Jean Thompson.  Short story collection within a narrative.  Well written but yet another depressing look at getting old and parents dying on you.

The Historian by Elizabeth Kostova. A good book for a long vacation.  It’s worth the investment of 700 pages but I am definitely over the vampire genre.

A Visit from the the Goon Squad by Jennifer Egan.  Another set of short stories that are connected.  I am not sure how satisfying I find this genre although this was well written. I understand why as a writer you would want to write this way.  Lots of meat, not so much filler.  But as a reader I sometimes want the narrative to flicker through my brain like a movie.  Maybe I am lazy but there are times I am not up for a puzzle.

Atlas of Love  by Laurie Frankel.  Mediocre cliché chick book.  I am not sure what attracted me to it.  I think the title.

Here is where I read:

We dont allow our dogs on the beds

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Random Fall Photos

Technically there are three more weeks of autumn, but with Christmas upon us I thought I should get these photos  up while they are still barely relevant.

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feels like spring to me

Despite all indications, it feels like it should be spring.  I guess 8 years is long enough for a body to acclimate to opposite seasons. Its spring in BA right now.  But I am ok with it being fall.  I love autumn and it is one of the things that I missed most when I wasnt living here.  So even though it feels a bit odd being fall and all, I am relishing it. It still is my favorite season of the year.

Re-entry in bullet points

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I havent been very good about writing lately.  Things have been really busy; mostly in a good way but sometimes in a bad way.  I hope that I will build up some endurance for the bad stuff and that the pace of life here wont seem so crazy at some point, some point soon, I hope.

The good:

  • Friends, friends friends
  • I forgot how pretty it is here, the trees are just starting to change and there is no dog shit to negotiate when going for a walk down the road
  • Meal planning and supermarkets.  I love going to the market and finding everything I might need to make a recipe I find in one of the thousands of cooking magazines you can buy.  I also love my kitchen and my convection oven, this is the shit that makes me so happy!
  • A real pedicure that uses water.  Weird, I know, but its so true!
  • HGTV and other domestic related semi amusing television
  • Internet speed
  • Self Service Gas
  • It is familiar, I know my way around and where to find stuff, this does mitigate the culture shock

The Bad:

  • DRIVING IN CIRCLES ALL DAY LONG
  • our public school’s obsession with standardized testing
  • medical professionals lack of bedside manner
  • too much of everything (ie 500 channels on our standard cable package)
  • Paying a 15 year old $12/hour to babysit
  • children’s soccer or baseball games on Sunday
  • Missing Friends
  • Folding Laundry badly
  • THE DRIVING IS MAKING ME INSANE
The important thing is that as crazy as it has been, everyone seems to be doing just fine.   The kids have all made friends and academically the transition has been seamless.  I do miss my house, friends, Jenny and the rhythm of the day in Buenos Aires that somehow seemed so much more sane and natural than being here.  But I am sure with time that will change, although not sure I want it to.

A best friend

Georgie’s prayers have been answered.  Georgie left a lot of good friends in Argentina and she was sad to leave them.  I suspect she was nervous about making new friends and starting over.

She has a friend.  Its her best friend.  And while she might not be her best friend forever, (but then again maybe she is!), she has a friend who will ride the bus with her to school, lives across the street and has the same adorable combination of tomboy and a bit of girly girl. Amen.

Irene is not my friend

We are now Irene +5 and no power. Happy to report no damage.  The kids were suppose to start school Tuesday, but because of a million good reasons;   non travelable roads for the buses, no power at one of the schools, flooding at another and the fact yet another was being used as a shelter with 14 families sleeping there, school was closed today and will be closed for awhile.

Its been OK, It could have been a lot worse. While there has been a lot of damage from the big old trees blowing into houses, everyone in our town somehow stayed safe.  We have had some fun meals with friends around candlelight, the kids have had to entertain themselves with outdoor summer games at night (manhunt) and using candles and flashlights make everything cozier.  But I am ready for some electricity. First, I am bummed by the fact that I will have to throw out half of all the food I had bought last week in order to build a larder of stuff to eat. But I am mostly bummed by the lack of water.   I was not cut out for the pioneer life, I like my showers hot (and plumbed in), would prefer to not to have to flush my toilet with buckets of water, but most of all I want my cup of Nespresso coffee in the morning.  Lets hope we get some juice today.

Home.

We are home.  And I am happy.  So far so good.  There was an earthquake and a hurricane is on tap for the weekend, but nothing that could overshadow the gorgeous weather we found on our return.  That and the fact we are here for awhile.  No need to pack up and head out.  We are staying put, and I am going to enjoy it.

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Days 38 – day 43, Mobile Safari in Botswana

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We were driven early in the morning to the Botswana border where we cleared immigration leaving Zambia, ferried over to Botswana where we witnessed the smuggling of alcohol across the border as seen below. After we cleared immigration in Botswana, … Continue reading

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Day 29 –day 33, Johannesburg and the Drakensberg

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We landed at the crack of dawn and were awaited by a very cheery Henry (not my Henry who is neither cheery or a licensed driver) who picked us up and delivered us to a  bed and breakfast that was … Continue reading

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Day 28, Cairns, Ayer’s Rock and Perth

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Today was a big travel day.  We traveled the length of Australia in order to board a plane for the much-awaited Africa part of the trip.  We left steamy Cairns early for a flight that was going to take us … Continue reading

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Day 23 to day 27, Cairns, Queensland

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We left Sydney early morning to catch a three hour flight to Cairns (pronounced Cans) in Queenlsand . Queensland is the northeastern quadrant of Australia.  Brisbane, where there were the horrible floods last January and the Great Barrier Reef are … Continue reading

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Day 17- 22 (with a day lost in there somewhere), Sydney

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After another fab night spent at the aptly names Tahiti Airport Motel, we were cautiously optimistic about our chances of getting to Sydney as scheduled.  Air Tahiti Nui, our airline company from Papeete Tahiti to Auckland had been having labor … Continue reading

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Day 6 to day 13, Onboard the Catamaran Mariah

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Our flight from Easter Island to Papeete, Tahati was smooth as was our arrival to another airport hotel.  While not charming, it was key to our early morning departure.  The following morning, we left the Island of Tahiti by plane … Continue reading

El Supermercado (What i will miss #5)

There are three things I will look forward to in my domestic chore of food preparation once I return to the States: Costco, Trader Joes and Whole Foods.   There is a downside to all the options and never-ending supply of new products.  It all takes time.  And sometimes walking up and down the aisles browsing products is like playing solitaire on the computer; it’s a giant waste of time. So while this unlimited variety of  food products affords imaginative meal planning, it can be a rabbit hole, when you might not have time for that kind of adventure.

Shopping in Argentina on the other hand is rather efficient due to there is not being much to buy.  We are not talking about Soviet Union style shopping where there is difficulty  finding staples.  As you can see above there is no shortage of rice.  As long as you like your rice white, long grain and of the Gallo brand.  Let just say there is not a lot of variety.  The lack of variety makes for a quick and dirty trip to the market.

That is if you go.  As I mentioned in another post, everything can be delivered.  That means major grocery chains deliver, that means the local veggie stand and butcher delivers and that means the eggs and chicken get delivered.  You may have the option of sending the housekeeper to the grocery too.  There are many options to minimize the impact of shopping for sustenance on things like hair care, tennis games and luncheon with the ladies.

New Federal Holiday – Carnival of course!

Chances are,that where you live, you are not enjoying a four-day weekend.   Today and tomorrow are not federal holidays unless you live in Brazil and Argentina.

Its Carnival!!  Anyone who knows Argentina, knows it’s not a Carnival kind of country.  While there are some celebrations in the northern part of the country near Brazil, most Argentines will be watching their soccer club and not their dancing club.  In fact until this year, there wasn’t a Carnival long weekend in Argentina .  While I always enjoy a little down time with the family.  This year the Argentine government has added 4 federal holidays  and in the month of March they have two 4-day weekends.  That means the kiddos are averaging 4 days a week of school.

Call me a cynic but it has everything to do with the elections in October.  Enjoy your time off Argentines, and vote early and often.