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Easter 2013

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Despite months of grim weather, this past weekend was lovely and it made us all optimistic that spring is coming, as it always does miraculously but never soon enough. The kids had Good Friday off so we had a nice relaxing weekend. GM was traveling to Argentina on Saturday so we had Easter lunch on Saturday. Eggs got dyed, lamb was barbecued, candy hidden and the weekend ended with the traditional Easter three course fondue extravaganza at an overpriced local restaurant.

This year we celebrated a milestone of sorts. There was no Easter egg hunt. There was loose talk of the kids hiding eggs for the adults but like a lot of things around here only Georgie wants to do it and we cant always cater to Georgie:) I did however hide the kid’s candy. I asked them to improvise baskets as I couldn’t find anyone’s except Georgie’s. Find the telling vessels that were offered up for the candy below.

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Georgie had the fuzzy bunny and Henry used a vintage suede backpack from my college days in the early 80′s. Owen used both his beloved Yankee cap and endocrinologist’s office swag, a pancreas coffee mug. Cal used a blue jack o lantern, enuf said.

Quisp and Quake

When I was a kid my mom never bought good cereal.  We never had Captain Crunch, Fruity Pebbles, Count Chocula , Fruit Loops or Lucky Charms.  Instead my mom made huge batches of healthy granola chock full of nuts and dried fruit.

I did managed to tried all the above at someone elses house, or even trade a handmade baked good for a individual size box of Sugar Pops (my fav) that you could make a bowl out of the box and pour the milk right into the wax lining.  And while they were tasty, once I had my own money and was buying groceries, the hefty price never seemed worth it.

Fast forward 40 years and I am my mother except I dont handmake copious amounts of granola, that would seem silly given all the handmade granola options at the store.  I do stick to the healthy or boring cereal for my family, Raisin Brand, Cherrios (plain), Special K and Rice Krispies.  Much to my kids disappointment I wont buy them crappy sugar laden cereal either.  Although, they are a resourceful bunch and are able replicate any chocolate cereal by floating the boring cereal in chocolate milk.

I did given in recently however when I saw this box of Quisp of cereal in our local grocery.  I loved the retro box  and  the non-sensical comic on the back  for a little light reading with breakfast.  I also appreciated it didn’t even try to claim to be full of vitamins and minerals making it an integral part of my daily nutrition but it would give me “energy”.  It was unapologetically full of sugar.  I did have a bite, and am afraid my adult taste buds couldn’t appreciate its simple goodness. I bought two boxes.  They didnt last long with my 4 kids (the 14 and 16 could have eaten an entire box, no probs).  They thought it was yummy and that these commercials were HIGHlarious.

 

Not Enough Learning, the Epilogue

This is an update that relates to the post  Not Enough Learning.

lifted from http://interacc.typepad.com/synthesis/2009/06/standards-schmandards.html

I dont know if I should feel pride or feel shame.  Is it Pride that my son is a satirist in the making or am I ashamed that I have exposed my kids to my distain for the school’s  singular focus on tests?  Have I poisioned my kids and undermined the schools administrators?

We are in the middle of testing lock down.  All the kids are taking Connecticut’s Mastery tests this and next week.  The testing schedule has totally wreaked havoc with my mornings. I am  up at 6:15 to get Georgie out of bed and Cal doesnt leave the house until 9:30.  Thats 3 hours and 15 minutes to get the kids off to school, a task that normally takes an hour and a half…Makes for a long morning.

Well the above is neither here or there, back to my child’s creative writing.  Earlier this week I asked Owen after school how the testing had going.  He had had a prompted writing test.  He was laughing to himself as he told me the prompt was something to this paraphrased effect: “Write a letter to your principal and tell her who (fictional or real-life.)should be invited  to your school to make it even a better school”.  So my son creates a character named Lucas Cantakeatest.  Lucas has superhuman powers when it comes to influencing average test scores and he can singlehandedly improve a school’s ranking to the point of  guaranteeing the continued status of  ”American’s Blue Ribbon School”.  Good one O.

Ashamed but laughing.

Not enough learning

I loathe the fact that our public school system puts so much emphasis on the standardized test.  I realize that almost every state mandates a series of achievement test administered periodically in a student’s primary and secondary academic career.  State and local school systems can glean all sorts of information from them.  I understand there is value in them.  I think its fine for kids to take them.

I don’t however think that the schools should teach to the test or that there be rigorous preparation for the test.  In most private schools, such as the one my kids went to in Argentina, there is annual standardized testing in 3-9 grades.  It happens once a year and perhaps an hour or two is spent familiarizing the kids with how questions might be presented to them along with some handy dandy tips on how to manage their time.  As a parent you receive notice saying these are the days the test will be administered,  try to have your kid well rested and fortified with a good breakfast.  I never heard anything more about it until I received my child’s test scores in a report card.

The results are pretty self-explanatory, but if you have any questions you schedule a conference with the school counselor.  I am mildly interested in my kid’s results.  The tests are consistant in telling me one of my kids is horrible at taking standardized tests, one is pretty talented at the test taking, I only wish it translated into good grades, one is a hard working test taker who excels and one is clearly confounded by maths.  Nothing I could not have told you before.  So I will assume that there was some value in it for the school.

Forward to my new school district.  Apparently one of the best, if not the best in the state I hear, them say.  One of the best according to a glossy local magazine that annually puts out a ranking of the state’s towns and schools.   To be the best at something you have to show an extraordinary result.  So this “best” is basically a function of quantifiable criteria.  While teacher student ratios and college graduation rates play a part of the equation its the numerous standardized tests that weigh the heaviest.

Why are these scores so important?   Teachers, administrators and parents all talk about these tests.  A LOT.   I get the teachers and administrator part.  This is feedback on how they are doing their jobs.  What they do with the information is another story.  Are they incented by these scores?  I have been told the higher the scores the more federal or state money they get.  Sorry, seems counter intuitive to me.  Shouldn’t the money go where the need is? Our high school’s astro-turfed football field/stadium has an entrance gate that looks like the train depot at Disney’s Main Street USA.  I would argue we don’t need the money, especially to pay for salaries for more high level administrators of these tests.

The part that pisses me off is that parents buy in to the importance of these tests.  In my community they have seemed to drunk the Kool-aid.  Why else would everyone so passively let the academic curriculum be high-jacked by these tests.  I was at my 4th grader’s Open House in September when twice in a 30 minute presentation we discussed these March mastery tests.  First, it was gleefully announced that they had found a extra hour in their weekly schedule to focus on some of the material and methodology of these tests .  We were also suppose to share the teacher’s enthusiasm for the fact a 5th grade teacher would beginning to work on some science curriculum with them this year so that they would be prepared for the science portion of the testing they would be taking NEXT year.  Most parents just shrug when I ask if they think this is a little bit insane.  In the minority of taking issue with it, one girlfriend said this was one of a few reasons they move their kids into private school for middle school and beyond.

Approximately a week later the frantic obsessive test taking reared its ugly head for a second time when my 6th grader came home with an untouched lunchbox.  When asked why he had not eaten it, he told me that because he was new to the school they wanted him to practice taking a test (ERB,something that’s isn’t mandated by the state but our school district swears by it).  These kids have been taking this test since first or second grade.  This practice session was being administered during his micro moment for lunch (20 minutes).  My sixth grader was new to school and is a good kid and did what the teacher asked, despite the fact that this is when he did what little socializing he could and he is a type one diabetic and needs to EAT!  I was livid.  It only emphasized to me how out of control their focus was.  Test results were paramount to a happy and healthy kid.  I gave myself several days to simmer down and they wrote a very pointed email to the dean of my childs section.

…I am writing on behalf of my husband and myself.  Recently an episode at school upset me so much that it took me a while to calm down enough to  write thoughtfully to you.  On Tuesday September 20, ____ was instructed by his English teacher (I think she is a substitute) to ” at lunch break come to my classroom to practice for a test which will be taken tomorrow”. I only discovered this because when he came home that day his lunch was untouched. I asked him about it, and he gave me the details.  This was disturbing on several levels.  One, ____is a diabetic and is administered insulin through a pump that is programed using assumptions that he is going to eat a certain amount of food at a certain time.  He should not miss a meal.  Second, lunch and any free time are key components of his transition from a small international school to _________.  And thirdly, as parents, we don’t care how ____ does on standardized  tests as long as he is learning and advancing intellectually and  emotionally.  We understand that the _____ school system puts a huge emphasis on these tests for reasons that have yet to be articulated clearly or justifiably to us.  We certainly do not accept that practice testing for tests whose value is completely unclear should interfere with our son’s health and social well-being.    In a nutshell, my son’s health and social well-being are paramount to  any importance the school district has put on the results of these tests.  I have explained to ___ the importance of him having a normal  lunch break and I hope you understand our priorities…. 

A few days later she got me on the phone and wanted to “clarify” a few things to me.  First thing she did was to punt my kid under the bus, stating he needed to be a better advocate for himself (he’s eleven, and isn’t that your job) and should have told the teacher he needed time to eat.  Then she tried to sell me on the importance of the tests.  At which point I mentioned again (see email)  I don’t really care how he does on the tests.  He is a good student and I don’t worry about him.  “Well if he is a good student he will want to do well on the tests because the kids talk about their scores, they are so proud of them, its really “neat””…….Well clearly she wasn’t getting the point that they weren’t important to me.  While I could see value to the school, I didn’t see why anyone should be proud the results of a test which doesn’t indicate hard work or achievement but preparation and an aptitude for multiple choice tests.  WHOPEE, you get a gold star!

Clearly she hadn’t run into a parent like me that felt so strongly as to tell her I could not have cared less about these results the school was working so hard to achieve.   I do blame parents who don’t see the wasted energy and resources in letting the schools teach to the test and put so much focus the preparation and results.  Its good to work for something but for a test that indicates what?

I live in a community where people are successful.  Parent I know all have  college plus educations and want to give their kids all sorts of opportunities that will begat other opportunities (a prestigious college is at the top of the list).  Kids in third grade know their test scores and friends tell me their kids test scores (high on my list of pet peeves).

Maybe I have four fucking geniuses in my house.  I don’t, but I wouldn’t tell you if I did.  My kids are not trophies that reside in a certain percentile or are numbers to improve on.  My kids may or may not be able to take a test.  What I want for my kids to is to learn how to think, critic, analyze, articulate and communicate ideas.   All my kids are talented in their own weird way and they will become “successful” adults (to me that means happy and taking care of themselves) despite of how well they did on these tests.  If you want to see how you are doing school system, go to it, quickly and with out screwing with my kids real education.

Definition of cozy

Christmas Light Blues

For the last ten years or so, petite white fairy lights have been been adorning our Christmas tree. I do think they are pretty but I am ready to embrace color on my tree. Who am I kidding, I have been persuaded by Georgie to go for a little color this year and I have to say I am pleased with the outcome.

Theatre Extravaganza

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One of the ways GM and I escape our children for an occasional 24 hours is to go into the city to catch a play.  Not a musical.  GM is not a musical kind of guy.  At all.  Thats fine with me.  I have been to a few of those and inevitably  their required sentimentality makes me a bit squirmish. Dont get me wrong, if I could sing and dance on Broadway it would be awesome.  I am just not the target audience for that vehicle.  I am too much of a cynic.

A good drama or satire on the other hand GM and I can enjoy together.  Especially  Shakespeare.  I bought tickets for GM’s birthday to see King Lear.  It happened to land on the same weekend as Georgie’s children’s theatre production of Mulan was debuting and closing .  It was going to be a cultured weekend of Sam Waterstone as King Lear and Georgie O’Connell as a hun.  King Lear was intense, desperate exhausting and 3 1/2 hours long. We thoroughly enjoyed it (despite horrible reviews we both thought it was excellent).   Mulan, while mercifully shorter, was equally intense, action packed, and  fun to watch cuz our daughter was on stage.  And whatever I missed the first time, I saw the second time I watched it.

Sam Waterston was a great Lear and Georgie was an exceptional hun.  It was a great weekend of theatre.

Halloween was a do-over

Wilton, Connecticut celebrated Halloween November 5th.  Last Monday, on  the real Halloween, we were under a foot of snow, trees and electric wires were down in the roads and most residences were still without power.   Spooky maybe, but not safe for trick or treaters.   So the town declared  November 5th Halloween 2011.    It was a little odd and random, doing it a week later, but it would have been too sad for my kids who have dreamed  for 8 years of going trick or treating in the U.S. if it had been cancelled altogether.

We got an extra week out of our Halloween decorations although one the pumpkins didnt make it as it got soft and some weird worms took residence.  The belated celebration also took a toll on whatever little enthusiasm Owen and Cal may have had for dressing up.  Owen was an argentine soccer fanatic, meaning he wore the Argie National shirt.  Cal was a “14 year old boy”.  Needless to say, no photos were taken of their efforts.

Georgie however is at her peak of Halloween dressing up.  She pondered long and hard before settling on her Native American costume.  She was not Pocahontas.  She was Sacajawea, Lewis and Clark’s indian guide. Sacajawea is also the name she gives at Starbucks when ordering a drink.

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Might be worse than water boarding

Not that I can personally attest to the fact.  I can only presume this is the case after I spent the morning with Owen and his 6th grade class at a local contempory art museum.  It was a well thought out and effective program in art appreciation.  What wasnt appreciated was the 15 minute each way hellride in a bus with 40 noisy kids.

 

 

 

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Mandatory blog post by child – Henry

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I am forcing my children to write something.  Thought it might be good to brush off their visual cortex before returning to school next week.  Here is the final installment in a four part series. I had a great time.  … Continue reading

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Mandatory blog post by child – Owen

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I am forcing my children to write something.  Thought it might be good to brush off their visual cortex before returning to school next week.  Here is the third in a four part series. MOST BORING PART OF THE VACATION … Continue reading

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Mandatory blog post by child – Callum

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I am forcing my children to write something.  Thought it might be good to brush off their visual cortex before returning to school next week.  Here is the second in a four part series. Vacation was like an adventure. First … Continue reading

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Mandatory blog post by child – Georgie

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I am forcing my children to write something.  Thought it might be good to brush off their visual cortex before returning to school next week.  Here is the first in a four part series. Georgie’s part This vacation was great!!!! … Continue reading

Tryptic Planking

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Day 53 – day 61, Ireland

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GM and I took a trip to Ireland 20 years ago.  We drove around, mostly in the West. We didn’t have a itinerary figured out, just flights in and out.    It was a great trip we even managed to get … Continue reading

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Day 48 – day 52, London or hitting the proverbial wall

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I am not sure  if it was because we had been on the road so long, moving from winter to summer, or because of the huge crowds, but we really didn’t do London.  We had a cool house in Chelsea … Continue reading

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Day 42 – day 47 , Capetown, South Africa

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Of all the places we went on this trip,  Capetown was the biggest revelation.  We had always heard that it was a cool town but we had no idea how beautiful it was.  Its spectacular.  It is most definitely in … Continue reading

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Day 39– day 41 Odd Balls Enclave, Okavango Delta Botswana

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We sadly had our last meal, a yummy protein laden breakfast with Brent and crew before we left camp one last time.  Brent drove us to an airstrip where we met our transfer (another light aircraft) that was going to … Continue reading

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Day 35 – day 37 Livingstone, Zambia,

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We had a perfectly civilized morning departure from Joburg to Zambia.  Our travel would have been seamless if it hadn’t been for the one hour and 30 minutes we spent in an immigration line at the airport in Zambia.  While … Continue reading

Random Photo

Thats Cal…being random, making himself a plank, as he is prone to do sometimes. Below find another photo that is more disturbing than random.  Yes that is Henry looking pissed (an a bit like Beavis), and yes that is Georgie, broken down like a rag doll in the middle of the street.  Dont worry, there were no large vehicles in the area.